06 August 2017 @ 04:03 pm
current goals  

This week:
— Unlock debit card, try to make sure student loan money will go into it
— Fix/translate those African poems
— Write self-intro for the Esperanto club

Before October:
— Clean room, toss everything
— Clean out comp, sell old comp?
— Get to N1 level in reading Japanese

Keep thinking again that I have to "man up" and just become an adult already. Adults can't shirk all their responsibilities and put off everything for months, they don't promise stuff that has a chance of not happening, they don't spend all their time complaining, etc. Of course I'm speaking about the ideal type of adult, the kind that's in my mind. I have a LOT of stuff I've been putting off for months or years and I REALLY need to just swallow my fear/laziness and do it, though in the past few days I've for some reason felt really tired and sleepy all day... Last night I had a bad eyeache and was super thirsty too, they're probably all connected.... *yawns* when i say tired, i mean if i pause in writing this my eyes literally slide out of focus and i feel like i'm going to drift off to sleep in a few moments. it's summertime so my body's overtaxing itself, what with the bright sunlight and all, i think...

If you put off stuff until you "feel like it" or "feel better", you'll never get it done. Time doesn't actually stop just because you don't feel any time-press. Then suddenly that thing you promised to do, you realize your promise happened 4 months ago, or you haven't replied to that Email in 5 weeks. Sigh. Just have to man up... Clean everything, keep it clean, become an adult. Stop messing up and eating food that makes me feel sick.

 
 
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[personal profile] december_solstice on August 9th, 2017 12:48 am (UTC)
Don't beat yourself up about it, honestly. Willing ourselves to do something is hard (especially if we don't want to do it...I guess that's the main issue right). You're the most determined, MOST DISCIPLINED, MOSTTT hard-working person I know, BUTTTTTTTTTTTTT we can't be perfect 100% of the time. Try to be mindful of one thing at a time, and focus on that one thing, don't overwhelm yourself.

I feel the same way, and I'm pushing, trying my best, but I know it's not all perfect. Do your best each day, make an effort in all those areas that you feel you're struggling with (projects, food, cleaning etc.), and remember even a SMALL effort is still a step in the right direction.

I know how you feel though, I've been feeling super fatigued, getting headaches, and I know it's from crap - poor diet. I try my best to AT LEAST drink/eat something fermented each day to counter the damage lol...as if it's that simple, but I'M TRYING (a good habit I've picked up from you - and kefir, for example, has been making long term results for me). I think, OK Jocelyn, you gotta eat some fresh fruit, veg, or greens today. Doesn't need to be a whole fucking salad, but EAT SOMETHING GOOD FOR YOUR BODY.

Try to convince yourself: Just do ONE FUCKING PAGE (of whatever it is you choose - Esperanto textbook etc.), or just send a quick email, it'll only take 5 minutes.

I know you can do it, but don't beat yourself up when you slip up now and then.

Maybe a different strategy to shake things up? Random thought: Have you tried habit trackers? I can link you to one I made in G-docs, and you can straight up use it if you want (or make one for yourself).
lusentoj[personal profile] lusentoj on August 9th, 2017 04:01 am (UTC)
Thanks ;_; I was just about to post how my first day with my new goals are going!

I've tried habit trackers but they're too annoying for me. I've tried making charts on graph paper to fill out and that hasn't worked either. I can't even manage to keep a calendar of all my homework/doctor's appointments... I think it really stresses me out actually "seeing" the goals, especially when I've missed them (at least, at this point in my life when I already have so much other stress).

Kombucha's been making my wife lose weight (when the kefir didn't) and (I think) helping her be more productive in art-stuff again (she draws fanart)! She HATES it, says it "tastes like the smell of a moldy room" but when she had a really bad stomachache one time it cured it in seconds so I really think she needs to keep having it... I have to figure out how to make it not taste so bad for her though. You should definitely try to make kombucha when you can at some point later on too. And i've found that if I eat kombucha and kimchi on the same day (has to be both) I get good dreams, similar to when I have natto but the natto good dreams are stronger/better.